Adoption Journey

Hello I’m Julie Cuplin…wife, mother, and adoption attorney. Imagine the following scenario.

It’s adoption day for Family Z. They are adopting a sibling group of three middle to high school age children. These kids have experienced things no child should ever hear, see, or feel. The one constant presence since their lives fell apart is their CPS caseworker. She’s been there for every removal. Every failed placement. And now, adoption day. Family Z is excited. The Judge is jovial and invites the kids to pound the gavel. They decline.

The actual hearing takes less than 10 minutes, at which time they are declared an official and forever part of Family Z.

As they leave the courtroom, Father Z excitedly exclaims “Who’s ready to celebrate with some ice cream?” Mother Z puts her hand on Father Z’s arm and quietly says, “Hang on. We need to give them a moment with their caseworker.” The mood shifts from one of excitement and celebration to a solemn mood with a touch of sadness. These kids have known this woman longer than “Mother and Father Z”, whose home they have been in for a mere 6 months. With embarrassment, the kids wipe away tears and say their goodbyes. They had no need for embarrassment though, as all the adults were also wiping away tears as well.

This is a true account of the first adoption I handled that left me sobbing in my car over the brokenness I’d witnessed. I realized in a very real way, adoption is truly bittersweet for many kids. They have hoped against hope their parents, or whatever biological family CPS placed them with, would work out their problems and restore their idea of family.

Adoption day for many kids is certainly a relief from their journey of hopping from home to home, but also heartbreaking as it signifies the end of a dream that all will be “perfect” one day.

Family Z is needed. So badly needed. There are too many kids waiting for people to step up and offer them a loving and supportive family. Also needed are Families A-Y. These are the families not called to foster or adopt but are so desperately needed to support Family Z through meals, babysitting, transportation help, tutoring, prayers, and shoulders to cry on.

And, as you can imagine, the journey does not end on adoption day.

There is a place for everyone to serve foster children and the families who take them into their homes. While that day does signify the end to a long, emotional, painful journey, it also signifies the beginning of a beautiful journey with a whole new set of difficulties to work through. Family Z will need prayers, encouragement, and support they can’t yet name for months, and maybe years to come.

Working as an adoption attorney for the past 10 years, I have had the extreme privilege to walk with a number of families through the legal aspects of adoption. While I am always happy to be a resource and sounding board to anyone on an adoption journey, I am also thrilled to begin a new journey helping Families A-Y find their place defending the orphan. There is a need for us all.

I encourage you to prayerfully consider how God may have you get involved.

You will have an opportunity this Sunday at the luncheon following the Big Serve at T Bar M. Look for the 1Hope for Kids table, a Christian ministry with whom the Springs has recently partnered. They are a licensed Child Placement Agency working with CPS and can answer your foster/adoption questions. They also have many suggestions as to how we can support “Family Z”. You can also contact me personally, as I would be more than happy to answer questions and help you begin your journey defending the orphan.

We are praying for one Family Z to step up this year. Will it be you?

“Religion that is pure and undefiled is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world.” James 1:27


Julie Cuplin
| Believer in Jesus | Wife to Kyle | Homeschool Mama | Adoption Attorney |
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