Start a Faith Conversation without Being Weird

In the past week, God has helped me use one simple question leading to spiritual conversations with three different folks. And, the best thing, it wasn’t super awkward or weird! Below are the responses from those conversations I enjoyed. My hope through this article is to equip you on how they began.

  • Response #1 – “As a kid, I grew up in a religious, Baptist church. I consider myself spiritual, but I don’t have a desire to explore religion any more than I have.”
  • Response #2 – “I’m actually a Christian and a student at Texas State. I’ve been looking to connect with a church, but I haven’t found one as I prefer a laidback environment.”
  • Response #3 – “I’m a Christian too, but I haven’t been to church in years. I’m open to it.”

Jesus says to share our faith, so that means we share our faith. We do it because we love Him, and we do it because we understand what the Gospel means for our lives—we were separated from God, but by His sacrifice, we have been reunited. We don’t have to work our way to Him, but simply by believing in Him we have eternal life forever and a changed life today. We tell the world because Jesus first told us – it’s that simple.

“[Jesus] said to them, ‘Go into all the world and proclaim the Gospel to the whole creation.’” Mark 16:15

So, if that covers WHY we share, the place most of us tend to get stuck when it comes to evangelism, is HOW we share. How do we share without being super weird, offensive, or awkward? That is a question I spent a lot of time wrestling with personally—I want to tell folks, but I also do not want to be a weirdo. And by the grace of God, I think there is a way to do it.

When it comes to initiating a spiritual conversation with strangers or someone I’m not sure where they stand regarding any kind of spiritual interest, I start up small talk with them (took me months of practice for that), and I am able to share the Gospel. The hardest part for me is taking a normal, everyday conversation and transitioning it to a spiritual conversation. In an effort to make my personal evangelism less clunky, weird, and awkward, I try to find simple statements or questions I can use to transition conversations to spiritual conversations. I call these transitions “bridge statements.”

A “bridge statement” is a normal, everyday question used to transition into a spiritual conversation. There are countless questions and statements to bridge that gap, but this is one I use all the time, “Have any fun plans for the weekend?”.

You can initiate a spiritual conversation with any person, believer or non-believer, by asking this simple question.  

Everyone loves talking about our weekends, and this question is completely normal and expected in everyday small-talk conversations. Because of that, it keeps everything easy. Let me share with you an example of how this question plays out.

  • You: “Have any fun plans for the weekend?”
  • Them: They will likely respond politely:
    • “I’m just hanging around the house.”
    • “I’m headed to the lake with friends.”
    • “I’m taking my daughter to a soccer tournament.”
  • You: Respond back:
    • “I hope that is a relaxing time around the house.”
    • “I hope y’all have a blast at the lake.”
    • “Man, that sounds like a good but long weekend.”
  • Them: Courtesy dictates they ask you in response. But you can share even if they don’t.
    • “What about you? Any plans for the weekend?”
  • You: This is where you intentionally include your bridge statement.
    • First, just respond normally:
      • “I will be doing some projects around the house.”
      • “We have family coming in town, so we will be seeing them.”
      • “I’m headed to see a movie with some friends and float the river.”
    • Second, reference your plans to attend church:
      • “Sunday morning, I’ll actually head to church and likely grab a meal after.”
    • Third, ask them if they have a faith:
      • “Thinking of church, I know it may seem strange, but do you happen to have a faith, or a spirituality, or any type of belief system?”
  • Them: “I don’t, but I would love to trust Christ as my Savior. How do I do that?”
    • Okay, it typically doesn’t quite go like that, but you get the point. I have to be honest – at this point, it can get a little awkward. That said, most folks love sharing about themselves and it ends up a great conversation.

As you can see through that conversational path, by simply asking about the weekend you set yourself up for an easy transition into a spiritual conversation.

The bridge statement makes it normal for you to say the word “church,” and once you use a spiritual word, the hard work on initiating the spiritual conversation is done.

From there, all you need to do is kindly put the ball back in their court by asking the simple, yet powerful question, “Do you have a faith?”. It is at that point, you get the opportunity to share with them the Gospel, your personal story of faith, invite them for dinner, invite them to church, or a thousand different other things.

I hope this acts as another tool for you as you share your faith with others. We are the light of the world (Matthew 5:14), and this is a tool for your ministry. God is in control of the outcome, and we are simply responsible for being obedient. If we can help you, don’t hesitate to reach out by emailing Jonathan at [email protected]!

Sharing our faith is normal, Christian. Let’s courageously step out and go get after it…how about giving it a shot this week.

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